I’ve known for a long time about the benefits of meditation. You don’t need to sell me on the practise. I used to think about it all the time and yet wasn’t able to find the activator to cross the boundary from thinking to doing. This persisted for years and turned into a form of self-criticism.

Self-talk, the brain’s own inner observations about myself and my environment, can enhance well-being or disturb or destroy my ability to function effectively. Clearly I had crossed over to the dark side.

I longed to find the motivation to meditate. Once I shared that with another executive coach he asked if I’d like to have a conversation around that topic. He started by asking me what it feels like when I’m in that meditative zone. So I visualized being there and described it. Then he

My meditation position and place

asked me where I went to. What a brilliant question! I went (in my mind) to the Rocky Mountains. I realized I’m in that mind calming meditative zone when I’m in nature methodically walking/hiking on the trails taking in the colours, sounds, smells, sights and feel of the forest or when sitting quietly at the top of the mountain, just focusing on the vista and my breath or when I’m in yoga class letting my mind go and listening to my body or meditating right before and after class.

 

All of a sudden I let go of my one-trick-pony-idea-of-what-meditating-was and realized I do it all the time. I had to reframe what meditating was and where it takes place. It’s no longer sitting cross legged for an hno sitting cross legged meditationour by myself in a room indoors. This newly developed awareness allowed me to accept that I am doing it and I’m doing the best I can right now (self-acceptance). This in turn has supported me in doing it more without any kind of grudging effort.

It all seems natural now. Now that I let go of my way and allowed the universe (through a coach) to show me another.